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Depression. PLEASE READ!

Again, a sad note- but I really want to talk about it this week. It's come to my attention that their is a message being sent around via facebook to depressed people trying to prevent them from killing themselves. It's a good thought, right? Well, it didn't work out so well, in my opinion. It talks about how you killing yourself is going to make everyone who ever knew you depressed, and basically calling it selfish, and saying that you'd be an awful person for doing it. Clearly the inventor of the message has never actually HAD depression or they would know it doesn't work like that. THIS IS A CHAT WHERE WE CAN TALK OPENLY ABOUT DEPRESSION. I want you all to link this to every one you know, depressed or not, MS or not. Please, we need to stop this preconceived notions about what depression is. Post your comments, questions, and thoughts on here, and if you are depressed try and answer other peoples questions. IT IS HIGH TIME PEOPLE STOPPED THINKING DEPRESSION IS SOMETHING YOU CAN JUST THINK YOUR WAY OUT OF! Lets start the movement.

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Permalink Reply by Half Cuban Princess on October 5, 2012 at 10:22pm

I've read that! I totally feel the same way! You should not have to feel guilty about your feelings!

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Permalink Reply by Nicole Clearwater on October 6, 2012 at 9:15am

Don't really get it. and muggles are always like that in FACEBOOK . I get irritated all the time. So I log out and open my MS account.

And could you please EXPLAIN. . I dont really UNDERSTAND the situation!

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Permalink Reply by Half Cuban Princess on October 6, 2012 at 10:01am

There's this long thing that people post on facebook, and on their blogs, and it's like "hey next time you think about suicide, think about how your parents will feel when they find you dead, and think about how your teacher will feel like he or she could have done something" and it's just not taking a very good aim at suicide-prevention. It's making people feel worse, and guilty about being depressed, and it's just such a terrible misguided thing...

So, Ren, is saying that if you do ever feel depressed or suicidal, and you want to talk without being judged or blamed, she's creating a place for it.

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Permalink Reply by Nicole Clearwater on October 6, 2012 at 5:44pm

Oh. So that what you mean.

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Permalink Reply by Ren (Beautiful Tragedy) on October 7, 2012 at 1:17pm

Also, that this is a place to learn about depression. For people to ask questions, and find out what it's really like. So ask your questions, and tell us about your thoughts!

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Permalink Reply by Manal on October 11, 2012 at 4:08pm

"What do I do if I feel depressed.... cry, spend sleepless nights?.... and I don't know the reason why I feel sad, but actually everything around me is turning out good and perfect to me... my desires are becoming true... but I am sad!."

This my friend mailed to me... I don't know what I should reply her... Will my friends in MS help me? please

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Permalink Reply by Half Cuban Princess on October 11, 2012 at 4:53pm

@Manal

I think that it's really important just to tell your friend that you love her. Tell her that you care about her, and that people get sad sometimes. (especially when the seasons start changing, and towards the colder months... (lack of sunshine))

Tell her that it's not her fault, and that nobody can blame her. Her feelings are her feelings, and they don't have to always make sense.

And tell her not to listen to anyone who tells her that she's 'irrational' because everyone's reactions to things are different. Sometimes people just have a chemical imbalance in their brains, that sets off their moods. Certain vitamins can help... Sunshine helps.

Going for walks. Exercise releases informants which can make you feel better.

If she's not at a point where she feels able to exercise: (because depression can weigh you down, and sometimes your too exhausted from just being sad to even get out of bed.) Is she getting help? There's no shame in going to a therapist. It can be really good to have someone to talk to, who's a neutral party outside your family/friends.

Not all therapist connect with all people. You should give the doctor a good try, but if you don't feel like one doctor isn't helping you, it's okay to try a different one.

Medications can help. Depression is an illness. There's nothing you did, and it isn't your fault. Just like someone with a physical condition would take medication, it's okay to get similar help for a mood disorder.

Some people think that people (parents/doctors/etc.) are too quick to put there children on medication. There are people who don't feel like under 18-year-olds shouldn't be taking so many different things... (I feel that, sure. That is a vailid opinion, and to each his own)

I don't want to push anyone to deal with their depression in a way that they are not comfortable with. In my experience you really just need to be open minded and figure out what works for you. I feel that if you're depression is at a point where you don't feel like you can bring yourself to be walking it off. (the place where it hurts too much too really get out of bed. The place where just getting to school is an accomplishment. (or even if you've tried the natural cures like physical activity already, and they just aren't working for you)) I'd recommend seeing a doctor about medication. I would also recommend seeing a therapist. With me, I've found that it's been a combination of things that helped my depression. (the right therapist, the right medication...)

And sometimes medications will work for a while, but then your brain will start to mellow it out. It's okay to make adjustments in medications. Dosage and prescription changes do happen. It does feel hopeless sometimes, but it REALLY can get better!

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(And, yeah... I'm not a doctor, I'm not a professional. This is all speaking from opinions and experience of my own and family/friends around me)

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Permalink Reply by Rue on October 11, 2012 at 8:30pm

That... that was so beautiful, HCP. You're so gifted at making others feel special and wanted and loved, I hope you realize how special and gifted and loved you are by all of us. :")